I'm very opinionated too, mix that with being a dominant male, I have to be careful. I still show respect, unless treated with disrespect. Then I go Pulp Action on that ass. Be I digress, you can have your personality and be respectful too, LB.
Well whatever I used to have horrible low self esteem and hated my body. Now I've learned to accept it and embrace it. Sure it'd be nice to lose a bit more weight (I've lost 45lbs in the last year- wanting to lose another 20-30) but its a slow process for me. I'm not in a hurry.