Im afraid i have to agree with MM. If people dont notice you that can be good and bad. Good in that no one would farm you or attack you / bad in that no one says "hi"
Hey SexyLegs xx You're looking slimming in black. Hehehe. And Bastion (and moose) do make a good point. You honestly just need to be yourself. That would be the best advice. Don't spam. Don't cry for attention. Be yourself. Not everyone is able to pull off all those Internet personas. RawrDino and B00B00 for example are super happy playful forumers. Not everyone can pull that off. Others are just jerks. Then there are trolls. Some people are good at trolling. Then there are serious posters. Sarcastic posters. Silly posters. Random posters. Informative posters. And the list goes on. Just be YOU.
@MM why thank you xo Now the "be you" temr has its limits : If you are a sarcastic annoying person, then clearly be you is going yo have side effects However if like some you are a nice helpful person then clearly be you is the way to go After all you cant spell beautiful without "Be You" :lol:
Lol. Fair point. However, some people may like you for being annoying and sarcastic haha. Obviously there are bounds. But its just like highschool. You can either be yourself, or pretend to be someone you're not. It's okay to perhaps try and make yourself seem nicer than you are, and don't be as blunt, but that's more to do with social etiquette and general politeness. You are you. We could all use a little change to help us become better versions of who we are. But remain true to yourself. Otherwise it can end up getting you quite down. You realize these people don't actually like you for you. They like who you are pretending to be.
Amen! thats a very good point. Key to success. Be-You-tiful :lol: Yes thats true, being someone youre not just ends up hurting you. Be who you are and true friends will like you for that if no one likes you for beijg yourself then at least you can say i was true. Its worse to lie about yourself than being mean or annoying as you really are
@mm page four: Being a useful part of the community isn't being a good player. It isn't helping a certain player. It is being seen, noticed and understood. A useful player can do many things. And a good player could contribute to something in turn being useful to the community. Don't get me wrong. A player who doesn't do things directly for the community as a whole, but more to one player at a time, is still useful. And they are part of the community. But if the community doesn't notice you, you are not helping it. Do you understand that I'm trying to make a player understand that to become a bigger better forumer they must be seen by the community? I'm not trying to bring players down. Does that make sense?
@mm page 5 first post As I told moose, this, like a war strategy, will work. (Unless you object that if you consistently: Make yourself stand out Make yourself better Make others better Prove your ability. Will make you a good forumer.) be yourself, I left plenty of Lea-way to be yourself but act right. I want players to have a chance in the forums. I hope this will give them that chance, do you disagree?
@op guides are not anything likengetting tought 1 on 1 like a mentor. Great guides manage to pull it off, but a guide to socializing can not be done. If you try to be someone else great, if you want to be yourself great. A guide can not tell you how to post or become a great forumer. Ps if you were to make a guide about this, wouldn't it be better to become a famous forumer first?
Posting a lot does help. When Ghoomba started he posted extremely often. Most of his posts were well though out as well though.
Lmao! I guess I was gettting a bit deep @Merlynd if you're wanting to help give them a chance in forums, it would require a much more simple thread. One that goes along the lines of... Treat others how you wish to be treated. Don't be rude. Don't spam. Be yourself. Anything beyond that really shouldn't belong in a "guide" to become a successful forumer. The rest kind of comes through observation and making friends and learning in general. No guide, to this much detail, will help them. It's a nice sentiment, but overall, I feel it's pointless. It is a nicely set out thread, but.. it's just like trying to teach someone how to make friends. You can't teach people these things. You have to teach them the absolute basics, then hold their hand for a bit, then let them experience and learn by themselves. If I were to make a guide for example, I'd perhaps instruct them to avoid voicing their opinions for a while. Instead agree with someone you agree with, and back them up with other supporting reasons. Avoid insulting anyone. Don't spam. Don't do things for attention. Be patient. Follow players in game and talk to them about their threads or posts. Things like that. and Not, use a colour. Be loud. Make jokes. Give people advice etc. But that's just my personal opinion. Also I think you should keep the guides separate. They'd work better alone, than mashed together. You can provide a link to the forum success at the end of the general how to play guide, instead of throwing this on the end of it.
I provided detail. I tried to say these are the basics. Yes it's hard. I'll push the right way. Just keep going. If they are: Make yourself stand out Make yourself better Make others better Prove your ability. They can become a forumer. I didn't promise they would be the best. As you know I died in the forums. I don't want others to die too. I feel if this guide was around I may not of fell down in a troll trap.
Let's leave it at this Be a wannabe B00, that guy is like God walking amongst mere mortals, 'nuff said.
My advice mirrors that of mm and bastion. Come to forum and be your self. Don't worry abut being popular. The only question you should really be worried about is this. "am I obnoxious?" If players asked that, instead of trying to "stand out" and "be popular" then forum would be a much better place.
The objective of this "guide" is to get people to be themselves within boundaries the forum respects. this is not for them to be popular, this a way to succeed in your own way