Short version. I will never post pictures of my children online. It is never safe practice to post a child's image. Unfortunately there are a lot of unsavoury people on the Internet. And some cases have come to light where people have posted pictures of their children on line. These have then been seen by predators and those children targeted as a result. Being a proud parent is wonderful. Shared with a select few friends and family perfectly understandable. But unless your child has a career in the media it is in my opinion never advisable to share their information or image online, until they are old enough to make an informed decision as to the risks involved with an online presence. I would also add I find it disgusting when media outlets chase after celebrities children. Let children be children. No child needs to be harassed due to a parents decision or career. Edit for typo
Yeah honestly f technology I want us to go back to the Stone Age! I want people to have to inscribe hieroglyphs on cave walls instead of Facebook walls! Fire is the devils magic!
100% this is me as well. Also, i get severe social anxiety and it makes makes me go insane when someone posts a picture of me online, or even tags me in a post. Anyone should be able to take down a picture of themselves if they dont want it on the internet, including children.
The privacy aspect is secondary to the Narcissistic tendencies displayed by the parent in posting (usually while driving in front of me slowly and erratically) every damn moment of their lives. You can say the next generation is FUBAR and whoa is we, but Our generation failed them. We (pejorative) gave them iTouches and Game Boys to mollify them and shirk our responsibilities of heaven forbid interact with our kids. We had the Kindle read to them so we didn't have to. We had Elmo teach them to read. We are now reaping what we as technology providers to our offspring sowed. My .02
Like most things nowadays the original question and intent of this thread has been a little over exaggerated by some of the people responding. If your child is of a certain age (10ish+) and they see a photo on your FB account that they think is embarrassing, and they come to you about it, you're doing a great job as a parent. Keeping that line of communication open is the key as they get older and the issues they deal with become more difficult. Now at this point you have two choices you can: A) Ignore their request and say too bad or B) Look at the picture and ask what bothers them about it. If it's something minor than this is a great opportunity to teach them about having thick skin (a trait everyone should have), or if the reason in your opinion is legitimate, you can show them that through communication you were able to rectify a situation and that is why you always want them to come and talk to you. Not every situation is cut and dry. As a parent we all must (not all do) use common sense and not overreact one way or the other. Other than structure, boundaries, and self respect, common sense is something we desperately need to instill into children to prevent them from panicking over every little thing that goes wrong, or that they don't like. Do you need to coddle them? NO!! Do you need to be so hands off they think you don't care? NO!!! Find the middle ground. Use common sense. Because when you do, an issue like this, should be relatively easy to deal with.
Simple. If you praise or recognize your child directly that is not narcissistic, praising a child on social media gives them nothing and you are simply calling attention to how good a parent/mentor you are, in now way is the youngster benefiting. So the posting is either you looking for recognition or you assuming others give a rats butt about every mundane detail of you let life. Both are classic Narcisim
Prime. While I agree political correctness has gone far too far. Children should be disciplined. But they should have rights to an extent and be protected. It should be the job of parents to both protect and discipline them. Many parents are not capable. And the government has made it impossible for schools to discipline. There needs to be a huge change. But ignoring all other issues and problems. Parents should have a duty of care to select an appropriate group ( ie family and very close real friends on social media ) that they share family pictures with. Exposing children to potential harm is not necessary. And it's not in the child's best interest. Every person regardless of age should have the legal right to make an informed decision as to whether their personal data or images are shared online. It is already a legal requirement to have the consent of a person or their legal guardian to share a photo of them online. On this one topic children should be protected as a matter of the law due to the high number if crimes associated with the Internet and the ability to target minors. But I certainly agree the government certainly need to have better discipline in schools and parents better trained as parents. This needs to be started in schools teaching the current crop of students what life as a parent should be like. And how hard it is. This may also then help the no win situation that many children are born into with negative influences upon their lives.
In an ideal world. Yes this. If only all parents communicated so well and reasonably. Unfortunately we don't live in an ideal world.
Nightwing that's the real world for many parents and children. I'm raising my kids that way, and so are many parents. Bad parents and bad parenting aren't new, and will always be around. My job isn't to fix their lack of skills. My job is to take care of my children. That's the real world.
I watched an interview about some kid who had to be given morphine in the hospital, and on the car ride was saying some funny stuff. Well, in the interview he said he actually at first was embarrassed when his dad posted it, but later was thankful as he got to be on shows like Ellen, Jimmy Fallon, and others like it. So no, I don't think it's a big issue. I mean the ones that we are aware of nowadays make the parents/child famous for a time, and they reel in quite a bit of money.
Yes that is your responsibility as a parent. Caring for others children may not be your direct responsibility, so I guess you aren't a part of the education or social structure. However when we vote, we vote for a parties legal policy, it's educational and social services policies. By default we all have responsibility over the care that our society provides and the protections put in place for other children. I am sure you would not walk past a child being assaulted in public. Just as socially we have a responsibility as a nation to ensure that our educational systems try to compensate and Instill decent values in children where the parents fail to do so. Ignoring the failings of others does little to resolve an issue. Though the nanny state may be going too far in many aspects. It is forced to do so, due to the failings of so many to do the most basic aspects of parenting.
It works both ways. I guarantee that a child will get embarrassed by what their parents do on social media. But I also guarantee that parents get embarrassed by what their children do on social media. All in all, they balance out that a baby photo of you is "bad" for you and a picture of you when you're 21 with a beer bong is bad for them. As long as everyone remains safe with who they have as friends or followers on social media then there isn't an issue in my mind.
But the difference between the baby photo and the photo of you with a beer is that the beer photo is shared with your permission, the other one is not. Shall not children have privacy rights, even if it's just for a small group of people? But what if it's shared online for everyone to see? Here where I live, we have multiple bloggers sharing photos of their children, something that was also highly debated a while back. Do you think that is okay?
how much is your pride worth that u'd post photos that embarass your child if only a little n not even care? I think when sum1 posts pics of their kids it's not the worst thing they could do in neway but deffinately an aspect that shows a certain lack of the requirements needed to relate to their kids in the modern era of social media, technology & cyber crime.
Privacy* I would say it's best to ask everyone in a photo of its OK to post it. Unless they all say yes it's not your call to make. That's why all social media sites will take down a photo that has someone in it even if they weren't the ones that posted it, if they report it. Children get a say too. People underestimate the little ones wayyy too much.