Is it ok - Parents and social media Damn right Is it ok makes a return! With the age-old question of... Is it ok for parents to stalk their children in social media With most young people these days having internet enabled phones and social media playing an ever increasing role in children's lives, is it ok for parents to oversee their child's online activity? Parents have gained the evolutionary trait of protectiveness. They want to make sure their child is happy and healthy etc. But does that give them the right to snoop on their child as they live their lives? Children can often make mistakes, a watchful eye on their online activity could help protect their child from something that they really don't want to be mixed up in. Could this be extrapolated to a social game like kaw, should parents be keeping tabs on their children in this game? Is it ok? Forums decide. Moody ️
Damn right it's not ok! It's like stalking your kid to where ever they go! Also if my mom found out what I am like on the internet, then I wouldn't be allowed to the park after school and my mummy wouldn't buy me ice creams at the ice cream van on a sunny day.
As long as it is in the confines of the law, I believe they can do it. Grew up on a do good, get good system. Parents backed off as they saw I was a good"ish" kid. I turned out good. I mean, I do rob a store every now and then. But that's not bad at all. ?
My Chickens are very important to me, i love them a lot and i am very protective of them. I do stalk my chickens, every hour of the day. For their safety of course.
Both! To a degree I think it is okay. I mean look, the average kids/teens don't have a very good idea of things like online scammers, creepers, and things along those lines. I think as a parent the job is to keep them safe and make sure they are using things correctly. However, it can be opposite. Some kids tend to do worse when the parents stalk them on the Internet and social media whenever the parent isn't paying attention and are more willing to look and try sites that they shouldn't go too. So I think some freedom of the web should be allowed to the children, while the parents still try and keep up without being overprotective. What's the difference between public schools and the web? Not very much when you look at it. However, the parents CAN control what the kids see and hear on the web, while at schools they really can't. So it goes both ways and is solely up to the parent IMO.
Somebody other than the kid touchers should be.. Kids are really dumb, and if you don't believe read these forums..
What if your kid is a terrorist? Parents should monitor and record everything their kids do online just in case.
No, I believe parents shouldn't be able to 'stalk' their child's media/gaming accounts. Leaving a child commenting what he wants means he will learn his consequence, such as being banned on forums or silenced in WC. On social media applications there are various fights, soccer fans on Instagram and Twitter going at each other's necks based on who's winning, two people who dislike each other or a group of people going at another group. The child should be able to learn independence and the consequences. The fact is, a parent should not have the right to overshadow everything the kid does. By doing this it means the kid will learn bad habits, like swearing at school, graffiti on trains etc. because it's their only escape.
I think you need to find a balance between keeping an eye on your child and still letting them have some freedom and privacy. IMO, the more you restrict a child, the more likely they are to rebel against you and find ways to do things they shouldn't. It's finding the balance that is important. Every parent wants respect from their child. But parents should respect their child too. If your child feels like they can come to you with any problem, then they will. If something goes wrong online, they'll tell you. But if you restrict to the point where they feel trapped, you'll be the last person hearing about the problem. I grew up in a strict household so I know what it's like. I respected the bundaries my parents set but still found ways to go around them without them knowing. I'd have been less inclined if my parents weren't as controlling as they were. It's still really important to teach your child about online safetly. I know a lot of schools here have programs about it. Obviously above I'm not saying let your 5 year old run wild on the internet. I'm talking about whatever the reasonable age you think it's okay for your child to be online on their own. So is okay? Yes, to a degree you must keep an eye on your child online. But, you must also respect their privacy. Watching your child like a hawk breeds mistrust. Important to find that balance. Children will rebel against you anyway. But I believe it happens even more the more you restrict them.
Parents should bring their children up well. It's ok to talk to strangers outside, it's not ok to go with them, or to take sweets etc from them. It's the same online, it's ok to talk to strangers, but don't give out personal details etc. Ofcourse kids will rebel, the best way to keep them safe is to ensure they know that if they need help they can come to you without fear of punishment, judgement etc. Teach them Internet safety, and they should be fine.
Obviously not ok: all humans, even children, have privacy rights that are sacrosanct. Parents cannot be trusted with that much power and parents will use that information to continue to do harm to their children. Seriously, this is almost exactly the same debate all over again. The tragedy is that we do not need hyperbolic, theoretical arguments when we have real life examples that illustrate our arguments so nicely. Previously Cheese gave us the example of another what if: what if your 12y.o. daughter was sending revealing selfies to her boyfriend, who had reciprocated. Knowing this is a current 'thing' is it then ok for a parent to check said daughter's phone for evidence of this activity? The parent is interested in safeguarding the child, after all. And this actually happens: one such parent of a 16y.o. found such pictures of the child and the child's boyfriend. The police were involved and a prosecution case prepared before the charges were dropped. Bear in mind that the activity was entirely consensual and no-one was harmed, but that it is a federal offense to have such images of a minor in your possession. Other reported cases have actually gone to trial (and the images/evidence seen by many more persons than the 'parent'. Now I would argue that it is perfectly ok for the 'parent' to 'monitor' what their child is doing online and offline for safeguarding. If there is no suspect activity then no harm is done, but if there is evidence of a larger pattern of exploitation and abuse then you'd be happy that the 'parent' was looking out for this to prevent a great harm.
I'm pretty sure the only people that have a problem with having tabs kept on them are the kids themselves..Good thing their opinions don't matter.. Just imagine if your parents could see your snap chats, am I right?!
I think parents should trust their kids to make the right descisions instead of stalking them in thier private lives.