Hi First of all, yes I am an alt. I would have posted with my main but too many people in real life know my main account so i'm posting with this account. English is not my first language so if I make any mistakes please don't make fun of me. :| I posted this because I wanted to know what I should do to find the right girl for me and also because I wanted to know how you found your girlfriend or wife. So this is a bit embarrssing but I'll start off with who I am. I'm in college and I'm trying to be a doctor. I'm not like all you cool folks so I've never dated a girl actually. I'm pretty shy and I don't have much friends much less any girls I talk to a lot. I train with weights 4 times a week so I'm not fat although not really macho and I have a hyper metabolism and sweat more than most people. There was a girl I liked so I plucked up my courage and started talking with her. She was very nice and we talked sometimes. She was funny, cute, a bit naughty and I liked her a lot. After a few months, I asked her out. She turned me down and stopped talking with me and soon started dating a guy who boasts how many times he's had sex. It really tore me up but she seemed really happy so I put my distance from her. She'S been with him for over a year now so I guess they really get along. :| I know I'm not really cool or hot and I know I won't be able to date the hot girls or the famous girls. She seemed like a quiet dilligent girl and that's why I spoke to her in the first place. I only want to be with a girl who'S quiet and dilligent and likes me too. How do I find her though? My college is mostly guys and those who major in medicine are around 100 people with about 20 girls and we all attend the same classes. Even if I become a doctor, I suppose a lot of girls will come to me for money but I don't want that kind of girl. Also who would stay with a doctor who can't be home 3-4 days a week anyway? :roll: So I'm rambling a lot but I want to know how you found your girlfriend or wife. I might not be able to reply but I can alway see forums on my main. Hope you can help me with my problem.
Well im just going to say the best way to find a girl that is going to be worth your time, is to not look at all. The best female you are going to get in life isnt one you have to continually search for, thats how you end up with the wrong people. Let them come to you, it may take time but we all have time.
Just pick any girl you like the look of and take it from there, I find it helps to date several at once. Dating several at once has many benefits not solely for ego or sexual pleasure and satisfaction, but also it is a numbers game pick enough of them and one of then is bound to be good.
Re: Findin the right girl Don't be discouraged by the incoming trolls but the right girl will come when she does. Everything happens for a reason and looking for a girl might actually make things tougher. You can improve your confidence by facing failure because u will know how to improve. Just make sure when u think u found the right girl that u don't let her go
Keep trying. Even if you fail, you'll get better at talking to girls along the way. Don't see getting turned down as a failure - see it as an experience that will add to your social skills.
The way I see it is, because she turned u down that means that she isn't "the one" so it would be pointless to go out with someone who u don't connect with. And if u haven't found "the one" then u aren't looking hard enough. The more people u meet the more chance u have of meeting "the one". Good luck to you mate
OP. (Insert ik that feel bro meme). I'm a doctor, an orphan and unmarried. I'm still searching. Maybe someone will talk to me for once. Well, darkness away, nobody is perfect. The perfect one will never show up. Don't waste your life waiting for a perfect one. There isn't one. Sorry to crush your dreams, but it's best to go with one you like, who you have a lot in common with and someone you get along well with. Not someone you wake up with after a night out. Sorry man, keep searching, but there is no perfect one out there for ya.
I haven't ever experienced what you're talking about, but something similar is happening to me right now. So this girl. I was friends with her throughout last year, and I really liked her, but she had a boyfriend. A few months ago her boyfriend cheated on her and she got rid of him. We started talking more and she admitted she had always liked me (since like 7th grade) but since she was trapped in a relationship she couldn't do anything about it. Obviously I was happy. So everything was going great but then she found out she's moving. Next week, in fact. This has been tearing me up for awhile. She's the best person I've ever met, and she's moving. I may not see her ever again. I tell this story because I want you to know that everyone is going to experience something bad. We just need to keep moving. My advice is try to be the best person you can be and whatever you do, do it the best you can.
Break out of your comfort zone, join some student orgs, talk to people, make a wide network, and through that wide network meet the woman of your dreams. You did great even asking the one girl out. Now play the field more Start waving at the ones you like, even if the're far away and your not going to talk to them and they might not even see you. Smile lots Pay attention to them when they're talking <--works wonders on woman for some reason Don't just say 'hey' when you pass a girl you like, ask how her morning classes went. Eventually I want you to know the nickname she gave that horrible calc professor and open conversations with, "I'm glad Dr. Derividick hasn't killed you with his sandwich theorem" Ask them what they're doing for lunch and eat in the dining hall with her. Such a common, chill, unassuming place, yet you get to spend time and connect with the girl of your dreams. In the winter time, always come prepared. I'm talking double long sleeve shirts under the hoodie, and winter coat. Because when shes cold, your coat is going around her shoulders in as not-creepy way as possible. She protests but you assert, "Oh no i'm fine, its not that cold out. I'm a very warm person" I have 5 words for you. Girls. love. walking. space. heaters. Finally, ignore her feminist equality crap she spits out every 5 seconds. You and her will not be equals. You're going to treat her like a queen, and put her above everyone else in your life. Let her know how beautiful she is, let her know that you'd do anything for her. Shes your everything. Treat her like shes your everything. And remember consent is the clear yes and use protection, tiger
Luckily I have never been turned down by a girl (devilishly handsome and great personality) so this chat has been very informative so far. I do like reading about this as gives me a little insight now I feel so lucky! Please continue this as is one of the good ones and useful. If anyone wishes to hear my tips and tricks into getting girls feel free to private chat, obviously there are younger people around and my tips are designed more for adults.
Step 1. Kill all potential male (or female) competitors Step 2. Kidnap the one you want to date Step 3. You got her