Hello Everyone, To preface this quick forum post I would like to ask that anyone I've had past conflict with to please not bring it into this thread and to keep it as civil as possible. No religious debates that go off topic or any other shenanigans. This morning I recently told my mother I was Agnostic. This did not go over well. Being that I am from a small town in Rural Louisiana I was raised very Christian and was, indeed, super Christian from the ages of 0 (birth) to around 13. Moving out to California when I was 11 really opened my eyes to the world as it is and to differing views of conservative Christianity. Nonetheless, I'll skip to the point of my mother not taking it well. When I informed her of this she lost her (word for poo that forum no longer makes *s), which is very understandable, but she then started threatening me with things I loved and cared about. She stated that if I did not go to church that she would remove aspects of my life I cared about until I returned. Groundings, phones, work, etc etc. I was just reaching out to the KaWmunity for any thoughts or advice on how to handle this without completely hurting my mom and our relationship? Once again, please stay on topic and thank you for any funny troll quotes you have, kindly PM them too me. Thanks.
As I am not very religious I do not know how to resolve this problem, however, I don't agree with the n.a.r. ending.
So shes basically blackmailing you into being religious? Honestly, i think you should just talk to her and give her sometime to think things through. if that doesnt work.. run. im agnostic but my parents really dont care.
Lie to her u hav changed ur mind??since u dont belive in hell or heaven..u dont hav to worry about the judgment day..
Your mother isn't perfect. I don't mean to insult your mom, but, she isn't being a good Christian. Tho, we don't always make good choices. You don't have to believe. Just sit through church. I'm sure most kids have sat bored through church lol
She needs to respect your views even if it hurts her feelings. Explain to her that your views differ but your still the same person and would never do anything to hurt her or your family. Even the worlds most religious people have lost faith then found it later in life and subsequently found religion a better concept with age. I'm not religious in any shape or form I find the whole thing out dated with not much form in today's way of living, except for being kind and respecting others. But I have the foremost respect for anyone with religion and beliefs, if that's how they want to live then it hurts nobody aslong as they do it peacefully.
AJ, I've done it for years, but at a certain point I'm allowed to my own serenity on a Sunday instead of being forced to a service I have no wanting to be in.
THIS i 100% agree with. however we cant force OPs mom think this way which brings us back to his problem.
Precisely, This isn't about how to change my mother's views. It's a pretty high chance that won't change. But, without my lying about "not being agnostic anymore" or completely not standing up for myself how do I deal with it?
I understand that. But, still. The best advice we can giv is, "you'd have to abide by her rules if you're under her house." Unless your mom is the talkative person. Then talk. I'm having simular problems. My mom doesn't talk. :lol:
Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't free will a Christianity fundamental law? You're Christian by faith not by force. If you don't believe in it your mother should accept it.
I believe it is Yoda, but that's not how many Christians see it and I think my mother is trying to help me, but doesn't realize what she is doing isn't helping.
I dont like the idea of lying ;_; but i guess thats the only option you got here if you wanna keep your phone and what not.. Maybe you can talk to someone at church? ask them for some advice on the subject? they might be able to talk to your mom :/
My mother was and still is understanding of my religious choices as well as my relationship choices. Your mother should respect your wishes, but if she doesn't want you to do something, it's probably best not to do it until you're 18. That's just the way life works, bud. More mothers should let their children explore the possibilities of social and religious life.
Despite our differences on KaW. I can somewhat relate to this being an atheist with a Christian upbringing. Personally I put it pretty simply to my parents that I will not criticise their beliefs in anyway so long as they provided the same courtesy. There was a lot of hostility at the start but I just argued logically and infallibly and now none of my family go to church (some 7 years on). Personally I believe so long as you act polite yet diplomatic towards your parents and others regarding the subject, they will gray ally learn to accept and respect your views on the lil invisible dude in the sky. Good luck️
Sounds like you forced your view on them. *Pedo moon.* Nah. I know. My aunt is an atheist. She is doing the sameish.